How can I let him know I like him?

As a teenage girl you experience hormones, and there are going to be times when the best way to characterize you is “boy crazy.” So, when you are crazy about a boy, you want to let them know so that you can determine if he likes you too, and if you should take it up a notch, meaning start dating, hanging out more, etc. However, sometimes as a girl, it can be scary to let a guy know you like him. The possibility of rejection can be scary. Thus, many girls struggle with how to let someone know you are interested, without looking like a fool if you get turned down. Finding this balance is difficult, and the reason so many “games” are played in dating, especially dating amongst teens. Boys are no different in this, and so the following are some great tips for how to let someone know you like them, without putting yourself in too much risk:

1. Some casual flirting. One of the best ways to clue a guy in to your interest in him is to flirt with him. Casual flirting goes a long way. So, engage him in some witty banter. Touch his arm when you talk to him. Laugh, share little secrets to create some intimacy. Be a little more physical with him, such as give him hugs, etc. However, one word of caution. A girl labeled as a “flirt” will have little success with this tactic when she actually likes a guy because she won’t be treating him any differently than she treats other guys. So, flirt with just him.

2. Initiate contact with him. When you seek someone out, make a point of talking to them, sitting by them, and spending time with them, it becomes rather evident that at the very least you enjoy their company. In most cases if you seek them out often enough they will figure out that you like them. So, when you are school, make a point of talking to them each time you pass them in the halls. If you are hanging out in a group setting, be sure to initiate conversation with him. You approach him, don’t always wait for him to approach you.

3. Be direct, but not too blunt. If you like a guy, subtlety does not usually work. So, instead of waiting for him to get the hint, put yourself out there, but not too much. Don’t say; “I like you, do you like me?” Do say, “You are fun, I like you, we should hang out.” That puts it out there that you want to spend time with them and gives them the opportunity to meet you half way by asking you for your number, or asking you to hang out at a specific place and time. If he responds, “Sure,we should sometime.” you may want to put a lid on your feelings and see if he ever follows through. He may want to sometime, but he may also be too polite to tell you he would rather not. So, at this point, the ball is in his court, keep your interest level in other regards the same, but do not extend an invitation again. If he responds, “Sure, what are you doing this weekend?” then you have a go ahead!

One thing you have to remember when you are letting a guy know that you like him is that guys do not do as well with hints, suggestions, or subtleties. They communicate in a more direct way, so to help them understand your feelings, mixed signals is a poor idea. So, you have to take a little risk, and let them know you are receptive.

Why being VL is not a bad thing

gorgeous smiling young womanHaving virgin lips is not such a bad thing even though you may feel like it is. I know you may have friends that have been kissed, maybe even been kissed more than once and by more than one guy, but you should be proud that you choose to be kissed by someone special-someone that you can look back years from now and smile just thinking about that first kiss event. You don’t want to think about the person you first kissed and feel sick, do you?
Many times having VL makes guys want to kiss you even more. They don’t want to be kissing on a girl that has kissed their friends or half the school. I am sure you know of girls that have kissed over half the guys in your school, but is that something to be proud of. Think of it like this, when you are a little old lady with grand-kids is that something you would be proud to tell them?  Sounds a little funny, uh? “When I was your age, little Sue, I made out with half the guys in school”.
Lots of guys will want to kiss you even more just because no one else has. You have virgin lips and that is something many girls don’t and guys like being “first” especially when it has anything to do with a girl.
Maybe you feel being VL is a bad thing because everyone thinks that no guy wants to kiss you, maybe you feel like that too. Don’t! Try to think of it like you haven’t met any guy that you WANT to kiss yet! The more you think like that, the more it will show in your attitude. Of course, there might be that one cute guy that you would “kill” to kiss, the one you daydream about kissing, you know the one. Do you think he would really want to kiss a girl that everyone and their dog has kissed?
Being kissed for the first time is special but it is the beginning of the end of your childhood. You have probably had adults tell you “don’t be in such a hurry to grow up” or “you’re only a kid once”. And as much as I hate to say it, they’re right. Growing up bites! I am not even kidding you. When you grow up, you find yourself working some lame job eight to ten hours a day, you have tons of bills. And when you do get paid from that lame job that you have spent hours and hours working at, you are too tired to spend your money or have too many bills to pay and can’t have fun anyway. But when you are a kid, you spend six to seven hours a day at school, you get money from your parents that work that lame job, you have tons of energy and you get to make mistakes and its all part of being a kid.
Of course just because you have had your first kiss doesn’t mean you are going to need to get a job or anything like that, I am just saying, don’t be in such a hurry to grow up. You will get your first kiss and you will grow up. So relax and be choosy. If there is a certain guy you have the “hots” for smile at him, make eye contact, flirt a little, maybe even say “hi”. You never know he may like you too.
Above all try to be positive, self confident and proud of your virgin lips.