How to get someone “out of your league”

Every girl has a crush on someone that they think is out of their league, and most and most girls do not think they can ever get this guy. However, this is strictly untrue. The following are the ways to get someone who is “out of your league”:

  • Have confidence. You can’t let them know you think they are out of your league, or they will think that to and not give you the time of day. So, have some confidence in your ability to attract them. You have good qualities, and you have something to offer that no other girl has, you just have to make sure you know it so he can see it, and find it out for himself. Even if you aren’t confident, start acting like you are, fake it until it is true.
  • Look good. You aren’t going to get someone who is out of your league by wearing sweat pants to school, and having a greasy head. You will need to look good. It does not matter if your natural beauty is not as much as some other girl, you can show off your good taste by dressing well; you can show that you can be just as cute by doing your hair every day, and wearing your make-up tastefully. So, spend some time trying to look great, and you will get his attention, and do it consistently, not just occasionally.
  • Impress him with a common interest. If he really is out of your league, and he knows it, you are going to have a harder time getting him to want to date you, but it is still possible. You just have to impress him. A lot of the time people think that they are out of your league because they do not know you. So, show off some of what you have to offer. If you are a great athlete, make sure they know you are. If you are excellent at Mario Kart Double Dash, then he needs to know. So, if possible, find out his interests, then let him know you share interests and that you are skilled. The best way to get a guy out of your league is to show them how great you are at something. It is even better if you are better at it than he is.
  • Act like you are out of his league. He is lucky to date you, not the other way around. Honestly, look at the popular girls, look at the girls who are “in his league” what makes them so special? They walk the walk and talk the talk. It is not necessarily that they are more beautiful, talented, or smart. It is that they think they are. So, time for you to change your thinking. You are the best thing that could happen to a guy. You are not shallow. You are smart. You are funny. You are insightful. You are a good listener. You are whatever you are, so figure that out, and be proud of it. You have to think you are all that to be all that.

If you can do the above things, you will be able to get any guy you want, even those who you once thought were out of your league. So, become the one who is out of someone’s league instead of thinking someone is out of yours.

Date, have fun, and have moral standards? It is possible, how?

young people eating pizzaMany people wonder if they can have fun dating if they have high moral standards. It seems like everyone drinks, smokes, and has sex these days. So, how can you go out, date, and enjoy yourself if you have moral standards?

The following are some ideas for how you can date, have fun, and have moral standards at the same time:

Date people with the same standards: it is hard to go out on a date and have fun if your date is expecting something you aren’t willing to do or give. This will mean that the entire night you will feel awkward or guilty, and at the end of the night he will feel lead on, disappointed, and unhappy with you. So, one of the best ways to have fun while dating, and still maintain your moral standards is to date people that have the same standards you do. This could be people within your religious affiliation, or it could be people you meet and talk to. Whomever it is, make sure you are on the same page as far as expectations and standards go, and that neither one of you will leave the date feeling awkward or uncomfortable because boundaries were crossed.

Stay out of situations that lead to immorality: It is possible to date, have fun, and still have moral standards even if you date people without the same standard as you. You just have to take a lot of extra precautions. You have to limit your activities to things you do as a group. You will want to stay where nothing can happen, and you will want to inform them of your standards upfront so that they do not have expectations you can’t or won’t meet. So, when dating someone with different standards from your own, go to BBQ’s, carnivals, bowling, play sports together, or get together with a large group. Do not go to movies, stay in and watch a movie, hit the beach, go hiking alone, or anything that might put you alone and in a regrettable situation.

Rules of thumb for dating and maintaining moral standards:

  1. Don’t go alone. Group dating is the best way to keep things PG
  2. Inform them. Just tell the guy that you only kiss, nothing else, or whatever your moral standard is. Then he knows and is less likely to try anything.
  3. Avoid guys with reputations. You won’t be different than the other girls this guy has nailed. So, don’t think you will be, and you will have a much easier time keeping your moral standards.

Ideas for dates that are conducive to maintaining morality:

  • Bowling at a local alley
  • Miniature golf
  • Swim at a recreation center
  • Hit the beach with a group, and in the light
  • BBQ at someone’s house, with lots of people.
  • Hike with friends and have a picnic
  • Tennis, volleyball, basketball, and other sports.

While not everyone at your school, in your group, or in your city has moral standards, you will be surprised to find out how many of them do. So, don’t just go with the popular crowd, or do something because you think it is expected. Hang out with the type of people who don’t expect you to do things you are uncomfortable with. You will feel better about yourself, and have a better time dating if you maintain your moral standards.