Showing off your curves without looking trashy

blonde  in leather jacketJust because you have boobs, a butt, or a nice curvy figure, does not mean you have to look trashy when showing it off. You can let people see that your body is hot, without letting them see your whole body. So, how can you show off your curves without looking trashy? Try the following:

Wear things that are form fitting.
You can buy clothes with darts, seams, and pieces that are made to cover you up, but still sit right on your body to show that you have curves. Quit hiding behind bulky sweats, wear a nice tailored skirt, a structured jacket, or a nice pair of jeans that actually fit.

The right style and size for your body is important. You may wear a really cute shirt, and on any one else it would look classy, but on you-trashy! Why? Chances are it is the wrong size or style for your body. When you shop, be sure to try on clothes that fit you. Clothes that are made in your correct size will do wonders for showing off your curves without making you look like you are going to pop out of the outfit. Not sure of your size. Most size charts have measurements, so take a long a sewing measuring tape, and measure your bust line, waist, hips, etc.

Blazers, jackets, and structured tops are great for showing off curves without looking trashy.
You can button a blazer that is the right length, and because of the way it is structured it will highlight your chest, and you tiny waist, and really point at the fact that you have a great body, and yet it is a blazer, so unless you aren’t wearing anything under it, no one can say you look trashy. Choose jackets, blazers, and structured tops that go well with jeans and dressier clothes, and be sure to get the right size in the shoulder and arm length.

Skirts. Skirts are a great way to show off shapely legs without looking trashy. That is if you choose the right style and length. For most curvey bodies, a fitting pencil skirt, or a fitted at top, and flow at bottom skirt that hits just below the knee is best. Don’t go too short, that looks trashy. Don’t go too long, it makes you look short.

Tailored clothes. Let’s face it, if your clothes fit right your curves will be noticed, and not for the wrong reasons. So, get your clothes altered to fit you the way they are supposed to.

Layered. Layering is a great way to show off your hot body without looking trashy. If you want to wear the shirt with the plunging neckline that draws attention to your great chest, then pair it with a lacy toped camisole, and you accomplish two things, you are still classy, and you show off your curves.

Do not wear the following:

  • Low cut shirts that make your boobs hang out.
  • High cut skirts or shorts that when you bend over show off a little too much.
  • Too short or shirts that are always showing off your midriff, and back when you bend over or pick things up.
  • Too tight of clothes. If you can see your bra line, your clothes are too tight. This does not show off your curves, it shows off your blemishes. Even super skinny girls look funny if their clothes are too tight.
  • Lycra, cheap, etc. If the clothes you wear look trashy because they are cheap, made of trashy material, etc. you will look trashy.

Modesty and style can they be compatible

Yes, it is possible to be both modest and fashionable at the same time. In fact, there are a number of companies that have emerged in recent years just for that reasons. You can find any one of these to be not only really cute and in style, but also modest as well. With longer shirts, higher neck lines, longer skirts, etc. the following five clothing companies are sure to please:

  • Modbe
  • Layers
  • ModBod
  • Undertease
  • Shade

However, you do not have to buy clothes from those five stores to have modest and stylish clothing. The following are some tips for how you can be stylish while maintain a modest wardrobe and appearance:

  1. Have fun with different fabrics such as silk, cotton, wool, etc., you can mix and match these to add depth to your outfits and look great while being modest.  You can also have a lot of fun with colors, different colors such as peach, greens, etc. come into season and style during certain parts of the year. With so many combos, you can come up with many modest ensembles. Play with different shapes, you have form fitting dresses, bag like, boxy, etc. Have fun with your clothes.
  2. 2.    Layers are a fun way to make your outfit better, more modest, and more stylish too… with jackets, tanks and tees, whatever you like or have, you can layer your clothes. This is super popular right now, and a great way to make your clothes look more pulled together, like an outfit!
  3. Buy some new clothes every now and then to mix in with your older clothes. You don’t need to go crazy on the clothes, but make sure you have enough clothes for the school year. Also, remember, if the clothes are modest, and classic, you can make them more stylish with accessories, and they will be clothes you will want to wear for several years, or until they don’t fit. So, in the long run you will spend far less on clothes, and still be modest and modern.
  4. If you have a favorite store and find that most of the clothes they have in store are immodest, you can look at their website. You will be able to see what clothes are the most stylish, because they are new, and you will also be able to look into their clearance and find items that are modest, or you can look on the newer sections of the site, but limit your viewing to the modest clothes. This way you won’t be as distracted by the immodest wear.
  5. If you have a small budget to work with, but want to update your wardrobe and stay modest, try Kohl’s, Target, or even Walmart! Kohl’s is best with clothes, and Target is best with shoes. Walmart is pretty cheap with everything, and has great jewelry and accessories.
  6. To stay modern while being modest, dress modestly, and modernize your outfit or make it more stylish with cute shoes. You can get shoes with studs, sequins, beading, metallic, strappy, heels, flats, etc. Have fun with your shoes, and update those more often, but keep staple modest pieces as your clothes, like white, black, brown, a great skirt, a great blazer, and of course, a great trench. Also, stock up on cardigans and sweaters. These are stylish, and can take a cute immodest tank, and turn it into a great modest outfit.
  7. Also, if you are trying to be modest, and you wear something over a tank, make sure it is comfortable and weather appropriate so that you are not tempted to take it off.

Making it an outfit, how to pull your bits and pieces together

Having that together look is easy when you know how to pull your bits and pieces together to make an outfit. Each day dress in outfits, not just clothes, and you will feel more confident about yourself and your appearance. So, to pull an outfit together, do the following:

  1. Choose the main parts of the outfit like the shirt or blouse, jeans, suit, pants or whatever. It does not matter what you wear, just wear what you like, so if you are a blue jeans kind of girl, grab your jeans, and your tee shirt, or whatever. You have to start somewhere to make an outfit, so start with what you have.
  2. Next, you want to make it look like a true outfit by layering. Layering is also a great way to make a dressier shirt, or dressy pair of pants look more casual. So, use a cropped jacket or a funky hoodie or just a blouse, two tees, whatever, and layer away. It is fun to wear blazers, but you can dress them down by wearing them over a hooded sweater and a little cami. Have fun and be creative with your layering.
  3. Next, get the shoes right. Shoes make a huge difference in whether your outfit looks pieced or pulled together. So, choose shoes to go with your outfit. You will want to think about comfort. So, for example, if you are going to be at school all day, stiletto heels are probably not a great idea, but cute flats with a flower may be a better options. Go for bold colors and fun prints, and match them with plain shirts
  4. Next…Accessories! This is the fun part, and the part that matters the most. Without the accessories your outfit won’t be complete. So, have a good time and choose funky beads, vintage chokers, layered silver necklaces, dangling earrings or headbands, but don’t over accessorize with jewelry. Then get a great handbag or purse, one with a little snaz won’t hurt. Your handbag and accessories can match your shoes, or be totally separate, but work wonders for pulling an outfit together.
  5. If you want to really make yourself and your outfit stand out, try adding some sparkle or snaz to your hair. Even if you wear your hair up in a ponytail, use a cute holder with a flower, or wear a colorful cloth headband. This will make it look like you put a lot of thought and effort into your hair, even though you didn’t.
  6. Don’t over accessorize. Ok, so I have said it before, but it is super key not to over accessorize. If you want your bits and pieces to look pulled together, use only a few key pieces or accessories. If you want to look like a jumbled, cluttered mess, then accessorize all you want. A big piece of jewelry, earrings, some bangles, and a hand bag are plenty.
  7. One thing you have to understand is that when you dress inappropriately, like wearing bad words on shirts, or exposing your body parts we shouldn’t see, then instead of looking pulled together, you look trashy. So keep it classy and your outfit will look much better.
  8. Be yourself, and be confident in what you wear. If you want people to look at your outfit and know you are a person who is going good places in life, and someone who is talented, fun, and great to be around, it won’t matter what you wear as much as how you wear it. So, pull your bits and pieces together by having confidence in your matter what it is.

How to get POSITIVE attention through your fashion choices

In girl world, fashion rules supreme. We all have a fashion icon, someone we could dress like, and be like. We all wish we were better at pulling off outfits that get great positive attention. Well you can. How can you get positive attention through your fashion choices?

  1. Dress well. This means be consistent in your style and taste of clothes, and do things that make people look at you and say, “She dresses well.” These things are matching your shoes to your outfit, choosing great accessories like handbags and purses that are fun and go with your clothes. Layering your shirts is another way to make people feel you dress well, and wear cardigans, sweaters, and blazers to make your outfits look planned and put together. You should also add good jewelry and earrings. People who dress up their outfits with accessories, and who make plan and simple look great, get positive attention.
  2. Go for classic looks. This means that unless you are unique and create your own style and fashion, do not follow the trends too closely. You can certainly use accessories to give your outfits a more trendy look, but stick with classic good clothes and fashion styles, like jeans, white, black, and fitted skirts etc. If you stray too far, you may get attention, but it is not necessarily going to be positive attention.
  3. Stylish clothes. Huh? Isn’t that the point? It is, but it is important to know that when you wear stylish clothes you get positive attention because of your fashion choices. Wearing the newest and hottest items from classy or top of the line stores like Nordstrom, Macy’s, etc. will keep you stylish, and get you noticed for all the right reasons.
  4. Conservative. Dressing conservatively is an important part of getting positive attention through your fashion choices. If you have great legs, by all means show them off, but not with a mini-skirt, try a pencil skirt, or a fitted through the hips skirt that flares at the bottom and hits just below the knee. If you have a great chest, wear a cute camisole, but wear a sweater buttoned on top of it with just a little glance peeking through. If you look good enough to get noticed, but leave something for the imagination, you will get positive attention, and not because your breast is hanging out.
  5. Well tailored clothing is a great way to get positive attention through your fashion choices. Your clothes should all look like they were made just for you. There is no reason to wear something that does not fit right. So, get pants hemmed, get jackets altered, have your clothes tailored so that they fit right, and you will be surprised the response you get. A perfectly fitting blazer can really get you a lot of positive attention, but the same blazer that is ill fitting will make you look sloppy.

Things not to do when looking for positive attention through fashion choices:

Do not wear really revealing attire. Only show off one body part at a time or you will look trashy. Too revealing means negative attention, not positive. If you can keep these rules and ideas in mind, your fashion choices will become ones that get you noticed, and for the right reasons. People will make you their icon, instead of thinking “what a slut” etc.

Sexy versus slutty, where to draw the line

We all want guys and girls to notice us, and most of the time we get that attention through our choice of clothes. Obviously we a want positive attention, but sometimes in our quest for attention, we go over the line. So, how can you know when you look sexy or slutty? Where do you draw the line? If you have ever wondered about this, read on.

The golden rule of looking sexy not slutty-Only show one body part with any outfit.

What do we mean body parts? Well, think of it this way: thighs are shown by wearing a mini skirt or short shorts, cleavage is shown by wearing a low-necked top and the midriff is shown by wearing a short shirt, etc. So, only show one and you are on the way to looking sexy not slutty.

Once you get dressed, look in the mirror and ask yourself: Do I look beautiful or hot? If you lean toward “hot” over beautiful, then you need to change your outfit. There is a subtle difference between beautiful and hot and you need to figure out which one you are. Why? Well, many people can detect that difference, and it is that difference that influences the perception of “Slutty” and “Sexy”.

Another thing to consider is your attitude. Part of being labeled/called a slut versus someone who is sexy, is in the attitude and the actions you take. So if you skip the drama and don’t act spoiled or bitchy you shouldn’t have problems with being called a slut when you occasionally wear cute booty jeans and a cute little top.

Another thing to consider is why you are dressing the way you are. Most of the time girls who dress skimpy do it to get attention because they can’t get it any other way. Dressing like a slut sends messages of insecurity and displays a lack of self confidence. So, when you go to get dressed next time you are going out, ask yourself what message you want to portray.

So, how can you take an outfit from slutty to sexy? Well, for example, if you love to have a little midriff showing or you like skimpy tops, wear a cute blazer, or a cardigan of any sort over the top. This will make your outfit subtle, yet still sexy, and will rid you of the sluttly look you get with those skimpy tops.

Keep it classy. The difference between sluttiness and beauty is just pure class. So, if you want people to think you are sexy and good looking, not slutty, wear classy clothing. Do not wear that three dollar cami with a pair of tight tight jeans.

You can look really great by wearing something that shows off your figure, but not a ton of skin. This does not mean butt tight jeans. It means wear a silk dress that clings in just the right places but still leaves something to the imagination. Give the shadow of what is underneath, don’t just bare it all. If you leave some mystery and excitement, guys will find you more attractive, they will like you for you, and you won’t be an object to have, but a person to get to know.

So, next time you get dressed remember, only one part shows, not too tight, it is all in the attitude, and it is okay to wear something a little revealing, but class it up with a nice cashmere sweater, or a light weight blazer.