How to stop his wandering eye

If you are in a relationship, and his eye is wandering, you catch him checking out other girls when the two of you are out, there is only so much you can do. Even in a marriage you can’t stop someone from looking, so how can you expect it in a younger relationship? You are still a teen, and so you should not be getting too serious yet, but that does not mean you want his eye wandering. So, what can you do to stop his wandering eye?

  • You can ask him about it. Sometimes guys look because that is what they do. You look too, you are just better at it than he is because you know how to be discreet. He may not be looking because he is dissatisfied with you, but because he is a young guy. You have to realize you are still young, and so is he. You are around hundreds of people of the opposite gender each day. So, how can you really expect him not to look some? He is looking to figure what it is that he wants, not because he is looking for someone better or new. However, simply mentioning his wandering eye and the fact that you notice it will help him to control it more.
  • You can change something about yourself to try and grab his attention again. Sometimes things get a little stale. You are young, there are tons of new girls to look at each day, and if you have been dating a while, he may just want to look at his options a little. You probably do it too! So, change your hair cut, color, or style. Buy some new clothes, and get ready every day so that he never has a reason to look somewhere else. If you do not want his eye to wander, you better ensure he has a pleasing sight to look at in you.

These are really your only two options. The truth is, as mentioned above, stopping it is really not entirely possible, but limiting it is. You want to be the center of his life, but chances are he is not in a place in his life yet where he is ready to make that HUGE of a commitment, and you shouldn’t be either. You are young. He is surrounded by females, and expecting him not to look at them is silly. If more than his eyes wander, then it is time to really put on the stops. If his hands wander, or his lips wander, then you need to break up with him. However, if it is just his eyes, you should be grateful he is normal, has hormones, and is attracted to girls.

So, do not try to stop him from looking. Be glad that he is looking, and be glad that even when he is looking at other girls, he is coming back to you. What should that tell you? That means that he wants you. He knows his options, and he is choosing you still. So, instead of being less secure because he is looking around, you should be more secure.

Now, if he is checking out other girls when you are out on a date, or when he should be paying attention to you, then it is a problem. Then, you need to put your foot down. Then you need to call him out, ask for a change, or break it off.

How to get someone “out of your league”

Every girl has a crush on someone that they think is out of their league, and most and most girls do not think they can ever get this guy. However, this is strictly untrue. The following are the ways to get someone who is “out of your league”:

  • Have confidence. You can’t let them know you think they are out of your league, or they will think that to and not give you the time of day. So, have some confidence in your ability to attract them. You have good qualities, and you have something to offer that no other girl has, you just have to make sure you know it so he can see it, and find it out for himself. Even if you aren’t confident, start acting like you are, fake it until it is true.
  • Look good. You aren’t going to get someone who is out of your league by wearing sweat pants to school, and having a greasy head. You will need to look good. It does not matter if your natural beauty is not as much as some other girl, you can show off your good taste by dressing well; you can show that you can be just as cute by doing your hair every day, and wearing your make-up tastefully. So, spend some time trying to look great, and you will get his attention, and do it consistently, not just occasionally.
  • Impress him with a common interest. If he really is out of your league, and he knows it, you are going to have a harder time getting him to want to date you, but it is still possible. You just have to impress him. A lot of the time people think that they are out of your league because they do not know you. So, show off some of what you have to offer. If you are a great athlete, make sure they know you are. If you are excellent at Mario Kart Double Dash, then he needs to know. So, if possible, find out his interests, then let him know you share interests and that you are skilled. The best way to get a guy out of your league is to show them how great you are at something. It is even better if you are better at it than he is.
  • Act like you are out of his league. He is lucky to date you, not the other way around. Honestly, look at the popular girls, look at the girls who are “in his league” what makes them so special? They walk the walk and talk the talk. It is not necessarily that they are more beautiful, talented, or smart. It is that they think they are. So, time for you to change your thinking. You are the best thing that could happen to a guy. You are not shallow. You are smart. You are funny. You are insightful. You are a good listener. You are whatever you are, so figure that out, and be proud of it. You have to think you are all that to be all that.

If you can do the above things, you will be able to get any guy you want, even those who you once thought were out of your league. So, become the one who is out of someone’s league instead of thinking someone is out of yours.

Getting a date for the dance, what you should know

So the big day is coming up: it’s almost time for the dance that everyone’s been talking about.  Everybody’s talking about who they’re going with and what they’re going to wear.  Except for you.  Because you still don’t have a date for the dance.  You’ve had your eye on this one special guy that you’re hoping will ask you…but you’re still waiting for him.  You’re totally on edge all the time lately.  You’re nervous that he’s not going to ask you and that you’ll not get to go to the dance at all.  Or worse- that some awkward guy you don’t even like will ask you and your friends will make fun of you for years.  There must be an easier way!  How can you get the perfect date for the upcoming dance?

Well, here’s what you should know.  First, be daring!  You can’t wait until the last day to ask someone (or be asked by someone).  By then all the good guys are taken (maybe even that special someone).  If you have your eye on someone, you need to work up the courage to ask him to go with you.  The worst thing that could happen is he’ll say no- and that’s not really that bad.  You’ll find someone else in no time!  But you’ll never know unless you ask him in the first place.  If you don’t have someone already picked out, choose someone that you know you can have fun with.  You don’t want a dud or a guy who hates going to dances.  You don’t want a guy who will cause a lot of drama.  Sometimes the hottest guys can be the worst ones to bring to a dance.  You’re not picking your soul mate out here; you’re choosing a dance partner.  Be cool about it.

Next, if you’ve decided to ask your chosen guy out, be creative.  Don’t just call him up and mumble a quick “wanna go to the dance with me?”  Think of a sneaky or exciting way to ask him.  Send him on a scavenger hunt or decorate his room with balloons with a message hidden inside.  It will get him excited to go with you and tell him how fun and cool you really are.   If he says no, you should go to the dance anyway.  If there’s time, maybe think of asking someone else out.  If there’s not time, go with a group of your friends anyway.  That will show him all the fun he’s missing out on.

Third, you should always remember to be yourself.  If you’re too shy to ask the guy yourself, you can do a few things to get his attention.  But it’s very important that you don’t try to change your personality or your likes and dislikes just for a guy.  Flirt with him when you’re around each other.  Smile when you walk past him in the hall and make an effort to talk to him when you can.  Don’t go overboard though- you don’t want to scare him off.  Establish a friendship with him and then do things together.  Then, when the time of the dance is approaching, find some time to be alone together.  He’s more likely to ask you out when you’re not surrounding by hoards of people.  Maybe even bring up the up-coming dance and see if he says anything.  If he still doesn’t take the hint (and you know that he likes you) you might need to be the one to ask him to go.

Once you’ve got your date arranged for the dance, all you have to do is prepare yourself to have a good time.  Remember to be yourself- no one likes a poser- and have a good time!

Question: Do guys like sporty girls, or girly girls better?

If you have ever wondered what a guy is thinking, now you get the chance to ask. The following is a guy’s answer to a teen girl’s question:

Question: Do guys like sporty girls or girly girls better?

Answer: If we could have it our way we someone who is both. It would be nice to have her want to watch football with us, and then get all dressed up to go out too. Obviously though, sometimes this is asking too much. If we have to choose between the two, we almost always go with the girly girl, but we almost always say we would go with the sporty girl.

I think it would be better to just explain the attraction to both, and then you can see why we like what we like.

The sporty girl is a lot of fun. We know that she is up for whatever, and that we can do the stuff we like, like long boarding, surfing, hiking, playing sports, playing video games, etc. We don’t have to worry that she is going to hate it, because we know that if we want to head into the mountains and hike up to a waterfall, she isn’t going to complain about getting sweaty and dirty.

We also know that we aren’t going to have to listen to her personal version of style magazine, or hear about some new hair removal procedure, or whatever. We like that we can talk, play, and watch sports with her.

The girly girl is great too. We like that she is always looking hot! We like her painted toe nails, soft skin, and that she always smells nice. We also like that she has to rely on us. Okay, we are guys, we want someone who is going to make us feel needed. The damsel in distress act really works for us. We are okay with you not being able to pump your own gas, it is actually endearing, and we don’t want you to stink like gas anyway.

We like that the girly girl is going to be eye candy for us to show off. We like what a good kisser she is, and that she is fun to look at. We also like that we can relax and watch movies together, go out to eat, or hit up the mall.

So, why do we like one over the other? Initially the sporty girl is more attractive to us because she is simply more fun. However, we have our guys for poker, games, and being sweaty and dirty. Frankly, when it comes to girls, we want them to look and smell their best. Sure we want to include them in the active things we like, but if we have to choose, coming home to the beauty queen usually wins out.

How to steal our hearts: Be the vixen that is a little bit of both. We want the girl who will drive the motorcycles, wrestle in the dirt, and beat us at Mario Kart, but does it wearing heels, having their hair and nails done, and smelling like a rose.

What teens should look for in a new car

dad giving son a car tutorialWhen a teen gets their first car it can be one of the most exciting parts of being a teen.  All teen guys want a sweet ride to drive around in with their friends or the hot blond from chemistry class.  However, buying a car is a big decisions, and believe it or not, appearances shouldn’t always be the deal breaker.  Here are a few tips teens should consider when purchasing their first car.

Gas Mileage

The three most popular types of cars that teenage guys seem to want are big trucks, SUVs, or supped up racing cars.  The problem, is all of these cars are not very efficient as far as gas mileage goes.  Since most teens would rather spend their money on girls, movies, and food, forking out money for gas should be a turn off.  Instead, teen guys should be looking for a car that gets a higher amount of miles to the gallon so they can save money for the fun stuff.  Besides, cars that get more miles to the gallon are friendlier to the environment also.

Price

Most teen guys dream about cars they can’t afford.  Everyone wants to roll around in a BMW or Porche.  However, even if a teen is able to cover the monthly payment on one of these types of cars, they might not be the best car for a teen.  These cars usually require expensive maintenance and cost more to insure.

It is also unwise to take out large car loans.  Large loans put extra strain and risk on teens.  Even if a teen has a good job while they are going to school, the amount they will need to work will require more time at work and less time with friends.  Also, if the teen no longer likes their job, they will be trapped until they can find something they like better.  If a teen is unable to pay the huge car payment they run the risk of defaulting on their loan.  This will slaughter their credit and make it more difficult to take out loans for other cars, a house, get a cell phone, or get loans for college.

Accessories

Everybody wants a car that is fully loaded.  But paying the high sticker price may not be worth it for teens.  It may be better to buy the basic version of a simple car, and spend the left over cash on custom accessory upgrades.  No matter what kind of factory stereo system the dealer has in the car, teens want something better.  Teens should just get the basic radio in their new car and then upgrade it to the stereo that fits their wants.  The same goes for interior color.  Seat covers are much cheaper than paying to have the interior changed.  Engine upgrades are also better to do after purchasing the car.  Sometimes buying the basic engine will allow a grease monkey more freedom to customize it.

Safety

Another important thing to consider when purchasing a car is its safety rating.  Purchasing a safe car is more important than purchasing a fun car.  Besides, the benefits are more than just safety.  Buying a safe car will reduce insurance costs which will save money for more important things like girls and concerts.

Teens have a lot more to consider when buying their first car than the exterior and the stereo system.  They must consider the practical aspects of the car as well.  Teens should consider the gas mileage, price and loan size, accessories, and safety when purchasing their first car.

Tips for talking to girls

boy and girl smilingTalking to girls can be one of the most stressful parts of being a teenage guy.  The thought of being rejected can cause so much fear it paralyzes a guy.  Talking to girls doesn’t have to be as scary as it seems.  And believe it or not, being rejected really isn’t as bad as it may seem.  To all the teen guys out there unsure about the best way to talk to girls, here are a few tips.

Cliché Phrases

Everyone has hear the cliché phrases like “are you tired? Cause you’ve been running through my dreams all night long.”  Girls may think these phrases are funny, but if this is the first thing said to a girl ever, it probably won’t work.  Girls do not want to be picked up with a cheap phrase.  Instead, girls want to know a guy is interested in them as a person.  Don’t use the cliché phrases!

Be a Gentleman

While all the other guys are passing out cliché phrases to all the girls, try being a gentleman.  This is a win, win strategy.  If the girl is interested, being a gentleman will show her you’re a man.  If the girl is not interested, then she should have the respect let you down easy.  Compliment her hair, open the door for her, or, if you are good enough friends with her, help her with something.  Even though it seems like girls just want the bad guy, they really want the guy that will treat them right.

Find the Right Girl

Just because a girl is hot, doesn’t mean she is the girl a guy should go after.  If the guy and girl have nothing in common, then even if she is into the guy, it likely won’t work out.  The guy needs to look for the girl that seems to share his interests.  Likely the girls he should be talking to are at all of the events and parties he is at.  Not only will it be easier to talk to someone who shares the same interests, but it is more likely the girl will be interested.

What to Say

What to say will vary depending on the situation.  If a guy is talking to a girl for the first time, maybe a simple “what’s up” is the best way to go.  If a guy tells a girl he is in love with her the first time he meets her, she will likely be freaked out.  Be natural and patient.  Getting a girl may take time.  Say hi for a while, then compliment her on something.  Then strike up a conversation about something.  If the goal is just friendship, being natural is definitely the best way to go.  No one wants a fake friend.  That initial “what’s up” may take guts, but it is the best way to find out right away if a girl is interested.  If she says hi back awesome.  If she give the guy a scuzz, then no need to stress about talking to her again.

Don’t Take it Personal

Sometimes a guy will think getting a certain girl to like them is the only thing in the world that is important.  Really, the guy needs to remember that if a girl isn’t into them, there are others that will be.  Getting in the dating game takes guts and confidence.  Guys shouldn’t let a rejection get to them.  They should just move on and have fun!

The truth about steroids

man doing reps with huge musclesAnabolic-androgenic steroids are a drug that builds muscle, enhances male sexual characteristics and has several very serious side effects.  Most teens have heard of kids doing “juice” or “roids” to get stacked for sports or just to look good.  Even though steroids produce results very quickly as far as building muscles, they have serious side effects.  Here is the truth about anabolic steroids.

Medical Purposes

Anabolic steroids are actually a very good drug for treating certain disorders.  People who are anemic, meaning they have thin blood, can often benefit from taking a prescribed amount of steroids.  Also, some men cannot produce enough testosterone on their own, so the doctor may prescribe steroids to help them catch up to everyone else.  For the most part, doctors do not prescribe steroids to teenage healthy boys.

How are they used

Steriods are used a couple of different ways.  One way that they are used is in the form of a pill that is swallowed.  Some people take the drug through a needle.  Because teens are taking the drug illegally, they do not take appropriate doses.  Sometimes they take 10 to 100 times the normally prescribed dose.  This can cause severe consequences for growing teens.

Who’s Doing It

Sometimes it can seem like everyone is juicing.  The news reports instances of professional athletes who are using banned substances on a weekly basis.  But fewer kids are doing roids than one may think.  In 2008 NIDA did a study to find out how many teens were doing steroids.  It turns out only 1.4% of 8th and 10th graders are actually doing steroids.  And only 2.2% of 12th graders are taking the illegal drug.  Guys involved in sports will likely hear of more steroid use than other kids.

What are the side effects?

Guys usually take steroids to look more buff, but the side effects of steroids can hurt a guy’s manhood more than one would think.  Steroids can stunt a guys growth, making them short forever.  Roids can also make a teen’ skin turn yellow, cause them to retain fluids, cause high blood pressure, increase bad cholesterol, reduce good cholesterol, cause acne, trembling, and severe liver damage.

Steroids also cause behavioral problems such as life-threatening depression, extreme jealousy, irritability, feelings of invincibility leading to impaired judgment.

The side effects most teen guys should be worried about include shrinking testicles, reduced sperm count, infertility, baldness, development of breasts, and increased risk of prostate cancer.  Steroids literally make a teen less of a man.

Steriods seem to be the answer to what may seem like physical weakness compared to other guys.  Really, it takes away a guy’s manhood.  The best way to increase physical strength and stature is through proper diet and exercise.  Physical trainers are trained to help people build muscle mass, strength, and agility in a healthy way.  Here are some quick tips for building muscle in a healthy way.

  1. Eat a healthy diet.  Teens that are exercising regularly can increase the protein in their diet.  This increase will help build muscle mass as they lift weights.
  2. Exercise regularly.  Teens that want to increase their muscle mass need to lift weights often.  Meeting with a physical trainer to devise a workout plan that meets the teen’s goals is a safe way to go.
  3. Finally, be patient.  Most males do not fully develop until they are in their early twenties.  By safely lifting weights will the body develops will help tone the extra ten pounds that will come as the body develops.

Information for this article was taken from http://teens.drugabuse.gov/facts/facts_ster1.php

Prescription cocktails, the dangers

handful of pillsBack in the day kids would skip class and go out in the woods to smoke weed.  Nowadays kids are mixing prescription cocktails.  In fact, lots of guys are just as willing to try strong prescription drugs as they are to try the more mild marijuana.  The truth is, prescription cocktails are killing teenagers all over the United States.  Some of these teens are barely in middle school.  Here are some of the dangers along with tips for staying clean.

Cocktails

Prescription cocktails are often created by doctors in hospitals when they must treat patients for multiple ailments at once.  These doctors are trained professionals who know how much of each drug is safe for each patient and which drugs can be mixed with the other.  Unfortunately, some teens think that because a doctor prescribes it, it is safe to take.  In reality, many of the drugs kids are mixing into prescription cocktails are as strong and addicting as heroin.  The drugs are so dangerous and complex, doctors have to go to school for eight years just to learn how they all work together.

Overdose

Actor Heath Ledger and singer Michael Jackson both died from an overdose of prescription drugs.  Teens are over dosing sometimes by the handful in big cities and small towns around the country.  Some of the popular medicines being abused are Vicodin, OxyContin, Xanax, and Soma.  The last two are powerful muscle relaxants.  When teens take too much of these drugs they literally relax their hearts until they stop beating.  No thrill is worth that price.

Some teens think that taking just one or two of these pills is ok because their parents’ doctor has prescribed the same amount for their parents.  The difference is adults’ bodies are generally able to handle much more drugs because they are fully developed.  Teens may be developing, but they are not as developed as adults.  So, the amount of drug prescribed to an adult is more than would be prescribed to a teen.  This means that the amount could be dangerous to the system of a teen.  Taking one type of pill as opposed to multiple types is just as dangerous as mixing the pills.

Just Say No

It sounds cheesy, but just saying now is probably the easiest way to avoid getting caught up in cocktail prescriptions.  Most teens who are doing drugs don’t want to do them alone.  They feel better doing things with their friends.  But if one person says no, not only do they usually back off after only a small effort to persuade that person, they will likely walk away too.

Another way to avoid getting caught up in prescription cocktails is to avoid places where kids will be taking them.  Inviting friends to do things other than do drugs will make sure there are always people to hang out with even if some kids decide to go to the party.

Prescription cocktails are popular, new, and dangerous.  Teens all over the country are experimenting with different mixes of different prescribed drugs.  Teens need to remember that prescription drugs can kill.  Famous people have died from taking too much, and teens are dying from taking too much.  The best way to stay safe is to just say no or physically stay away from the scene.  It is not worth dying just to fit in.

Tips for talking to girls

boy talking to unhappy girlTalking to girls can be one of the most stressful parts of being a teenage guy.  The thought of being rejected can cause so much fear it paralyzes a guy.  Talking to girls doesn’t have to be as scary as it seems.  And believe it or not, being rejected really isn’t as bad as it may seem.  To all the guys out there unsure about the best way to talk to girls, here are a few tips.

Cliché Phrases

Everyone has hear the cliché phrases like “are you tired? Cause you’ve been running through my dreams all night long.”  Girls may think these phrases are funny, but if this is the first thing said to a girl ever, it probably won’t work.  Girls do not want to be picked up with a cheap phrase.  Instead, girls want to know a guy is interested in them as a person.  Don’t use them!

Be a Gentleman

While all the other guys are passing out cliché phrases to all the girls, try being a gentleman.  This is a win, win strategy.  If the girl is interested, being a gentleman will show her you’re a man.  If the girl is not interested, then she should have the respect let you down easy.  Compliment her hair, open the door for her, or, if you are good enough friends with her, help her with something.  Even though it seems like girls just want the bad guy, they really want the guy that will treat them right.

Find the Right Girl

Just because a girl is hot, doesn’t mean she is the girl a guy should go after.  If the guy and girl have nothing in common, then even if she is into the guy, it likely won’t work out.  The guy needs to look for the girl that seems to share his interests.  Likely the girls he should be talking to are at all of the events and parties he is at.  Not only will it be easier to talk to someone who shares the same interests, but it is more likely the girl will be interested.

What to Say

What to say will vary depending on the situation.  If a guy is talking to a girl for the first time, maybe a simple “what’s up” is the best way to go.  If a guy tells a girl he is in love with her the first time he meets her, she will likely be freaked out.  Be natural and patient.  Getting a girl to fall for you may take time.  Say hi for a while, then compliment her on something.  Then strike up a conversation about something.  If the goal is just friendship, being natural is definitely the best way to go.  No one wants a fake friend.  That initial “what’s up” may take guts, but it is the best way to find out right away if a girl is interested.  If she says hi back awesome.  If she give the guy a scuzz, then no need to stress about talking to her again.

Don’t Take it Personal

Sometimes a guy will think getting a certain girl to like them is the only thing in the world that is important.  Really, the guy needs to remember that if a girl isn’t into them, there are others that will be.  Getting in the dating game takes guts and confidence.  Guys shouldn’t let a rejection get to them.  They should just move on and have fun!

High school and why to do it right

student sleeping on booksEverybody knows high school can be a drag.  The whole schedule is set, and students have very little freedom to take the classes they really want to take.  It can be difficult to stay focused on boring school work with all of the other things to do like sporting events, dances, dating, and hanging out with friends.  Even though it can be a drag, doing well in high school is more important than one may think.  Here are a few reasons why doing high school right is important.

College

The main reason doing high school right is to get into the right college.  Most colleges are very selective about which students they will accept.  The students with low grade point averages and “lounging by the pool” as their only extra-curricular activity will have a hard time getting in where they want to go.  Generally, colleges like to see at least a B+ average with quality extra-curricular activities like student government, athletics, community service, or other leadership activities.

No lie, some colleges accept everyone.  Some of these colleges and universities provide a high quality education.  However, even though students who blow off high school can get accepted to these open enrollment schools, they might not be able to do everything that will be required of them once they are accepted.  By working pretty hard in high school, students prepare themselves for the rigorous workload given in college.

Scholarships

Nobody really wants to pay for college.  The best way to go for free is to get a scholarship.  Committees of people decide who gets what scholarship.  Those committees are generally looking for several important things.  They want to see a high grade point average, leadership experience, and extra-curricular activities.  Don’t worry; most of them do not want to see a high quantity of extra-curricular activities.  There can still be plenty of time to hang out, as long as students stay involved in a quality extra-curricular activity in which they are really involved.

Graduation

Everybody looks forward to getting out of high school.  Sticking with the boring classes and getting through is important if for nothing else than to get a diploma and graduate with friends.  Dropping out may seem like an easier option, but in reality, getting a diploma will look better on resumes, open up the opportunity to go to college there is interest, and give students the satisfaction of completing a school work marathon.  Most people are in school for 13 years.  To drop out the last year would kind of be a waste of the previous 12 years.

Self-Confidence

Let’s face it; no one wants to be the dumb one in the room.  Finishing high school is one way to show that a person has the ability to see things through.  High school graduates will also have that diploma to support them as they continue to seek knowledge.  People who finish high school are generally healthier, more confident, and live a more fulfilled life because they have the ability to continue to move forward in their careers.

Getting through high school may seem like a pointless endeavor, especially when grades are low and classes are boring.  It is important to remember that getting through high school has lots of benefits.  It really is worth it.  Just remember that high school leads to college, good grades leads to free money, getting through leads to graduation, and finishing 13 years of school is quite the accomplishment.