How to stop his wandering eye

If you are in a relationship, and his eye is wandering, you catch him checking out other girls when the two of you are out, there is only so much you can do. Even in a marriage you can’t stop someone from looking, so how can you expect it in a younger relationship? You are still a teen, and so you should not be getting too serious yet, but that does not mean you want his eye wandering. So, what can you do to stop his wandering eye?

•    You can ask him about it. Sometimes guys look because that is what they do. You look too, you are just better at it than he is because you know how to be discreet. He may not be looking because he is dissatisfied with you, but because he is a young guy. You have to realize you are still young, and so is he. You are around hundreds of people of the opposite gender each day. So, how can you really expect him not to look some? He is looking to figure what it is that he wants, not because he is looking for someone better or new. However, simply mentioning his wandering eye and the fact that you notice it will help him to control it more.
•    You can change something about yourself to try and grab his attention again. Sometimes things get a little stale. You are young, there are tons of new girls to look at each day, and if you have been dating a while, he may just want to look at his options a little. You probably do it too! So, change your hair cut, color, or style. Buy some new clothes, and get ready every day so that he never has a reason to look somewhere else. If you do not want his eye to wander, you better ensure he has a pleasing sight to look at in you.

These are really your only two options. The truth is, as mentioned above, stopping it is really not entirely possible, but limiting it is. You want to be the center of his life, but chances are he is not in a place in his life yet where he is ready to make that HUGE of a commitment, and you shouldn’t be either. You are young. He is surrounded by females, and expecting him not to look at them is silly. If more than his eyes wander, then it is time to really put on the stops. If his hands wander, or his lips wander, then you need to break up with him. However, if it is just his eyes, you should be grateful he is normal, has hormones, and is attracted to girls.

So, do not try to stop him from looking. Be glad that he is looking, and be glad that even when he is looking at other girls, he is coming back to you. What should that tell you? That means that he wants you. He knows his options, and he is choosing you still. So, instead of being less secure because he is looking around, you should be more secure.

Now, if he is checking out other girls when you are out on a date, or when he should be paying attention to you, then it is a problem. Then, you need to put your foot down. Then you need to call him out, ask for a change, or break it off.

How to stop his wandering eye

If you are in a relationship, and his eye is wandering, you catch him checking out other girls when the two of you are out, there is only so much you can do. Even in a marriage you can’t stop someone from looking, so how can you expect it in a younger relationship? You are still a teen, and so you should not be getting too serious yet, but that does not mean you want his eye wandering. So, what can you do to stop his wandering eye?

  • You can ask him about it. Sometimes guys look because that is what they do. You look too, you are just better at it than he is because you know how to be discreet. He may not be looking because he is dissatisfied with you, but because he is a young guy. You have to realize you are still young, and so is he. You are around hundreds of people of the opposite gender each day. So, how can you really expect him not to look some? He is looking to figure what it is that he wants, not because he is looking for someone better or new. However, simply mentioning his wandering eye and the fact that you notice it will help him to control it more.
  • You can change something about yourself to try and grab his attention again. Sometimes things get a little stale. You are young, there are tons of new girls to look at each day, and if you have been dating a while, he may just want to look at his options a little. You probably do it too! So, change your hair cut, color, or style. Buy some new clothes, and get ready every day so that he never has a reason to look somewhere else. If you do not want his eye to wander, you better ensure he has a pleasing sight to look at in you.

These are really your only two options. The truth is, as mentioned above, stopping it is really not entirely possible, but limiting it is. You want to be the center of his life, but chances are he is not in a place in his life yet where he is ready to make that HUGE of a commitment, and you shouldn’t be either. You are young. He is surrounded by females, and expecting him not to look at them is silly. If more than his eyes wander, then it is time to really put on the stops. If his hands wander, or his lips wander, then you need to break up with him. However, if it is just his eyes, you should be grateful he is normal, has hormones, and is attracted to girls.

So, do not try to stop him from looking. Be glad that he is looking, and be glad that even when he is looking at other girls, he is coming back to you. What should that tell you? That means that he wants you. He knows his options, and he is choosing you still. So, instead of being less secure because he is looking around, you should be more secure.

Now, if he is checking out other girls when you are out on a date, or when he should be paying attention to you, then it is a problem. Then, you need to put your foot down. Then you need to call him out, ask for a change, or break it off.

How to get someone “out of your league”

Every girl has a crush on someone that they think is out of their league, and most and most girls do not think they can ever get this guy. However, this is strictly untrue. The following are the ways to get someone who is “out of your league”:

  • Have confidence. You can’t let them know you think they are out of your league, or they will think that to and not give you the time of day. So, have some confidence in your ability to attract them. You have good qualities, and you have something to offer that no other girl has, you just have to make sure you know it so he can see it, and find it out for himself. Even if you aren’t confident, start acting like you are, fake it until it is true.
  • Look good. You aren’t going to get someone who is out of your league by wearing sweat pants to school, and having a greasy head. You will need to look good. It does not matter if your natural beauty is not as much as some other girl, you can show off your good taste by dressing well; you can show that you can be just as cute by doing your hair every day, and wearing your make-up tastefully. So, spend some time trying to look great, and you will get his attention, and do it consistently, not just occasionally.
  • Impress him with a common interest. If he really is out of your league, and he knows it, you are going to have a harder time getting him to want to date you, but it is still possible. You just have to impress him. A lot of the time people think that they are out of your league because they do not know you. So, show off some of what you have to offer. If you are a great athlete, make sure they know you are. If you are excellent at Mario Kart Double Dash, then he needs to know. So, if possible, find out his interests, then let him know you share interests and that you are skilled. The best way to get a guy out of your league is to show them how great you are at something. It is even better if you are better at it than he is.
  • Act like you are out of his league. He is lucky to date you, not the other way around. Honestly, look at the popular girls, look at the girls who are “in his league” what makes them so special? They walk the walk and talk the talk. It is not necessarily that they are more beautiful, talented, or smart. It is that they think they are. So, time for you to change your thinking. You are the best thing that could happen to a guy. You are not shallow. You are smart. You are funny. You are insightful. You are a good listener. You are whatever you are, so figure that out, and be proud of it. You have to think you are all that to be all that.

If you can do the above things, you will be able to get any guy you want, even those who you once thought were out of your league. So, become the one who is out of someone’s league instead of thinking someone is out of yours.

Getting a date for the dance, what you should know

So the big day is coming up: it’s almost time for the dance that everyone’s been talking about.  Everybody’s talking about who they’re going with and what they’re going to wear.  Except for you.  Because you still don’t have a date for the dance.  You’ve had your eye on this one special guy that you’re hoping will ask you…but you’re still waiting for him.  You’re totally on edge all the time lately.  You’re nervous that he’s not going to ask you and that you’ll not get to go to the dance at all.  Or worse- that some awkward guy you don’t even like will ask you and your friends will make fun of you for years.  There must be an easier way!  How can you get the perfect date for the upcoming dance?

Well, here’s what you should know.  First, be daring!  You can’t wait until the last day to ask someone (or be asked by someone).  By then all the good guys are taken (maybe even that special someone).  If you have your eye on someone, you need to work up the courage to ask him to go with you.  The worst thing that could happen is he’ll say no- and that’s not really that bad.  You’ll find someone else in no time!  But you’ll never know unless you ask him in the first place.  If you don’t have someone already picked out, choose someone that you know you can have fun with.  You don’t want a dud or a guy who hates going to dances.  You don’t want a guy who will cause a lot of drama.  Sometimes the hottest guys can be the worst ones to bring to a dance.  You’re not picking your soul mate out here; you’re choosing a dance partner.  Be cool about it.

Next, if you’ve decided to ask your chosen guy out, be creative.  Don’t just call him up and mumble a quick “wanna go to the dance with me?”  Think of a sneaky or exciting way to ask him.  Send him on a scavenger hunt or decorate his room with balloons with a message hidden inside.  It will get him excited to go with you and tell him how fun and cool you really are.   If he says no, you should go to the dance anyway.  If there’s time, maybe think of asking someone else out.  If there’s not time, go with a group of your friends anyway.  That will show him all the fun he’s missing out on.

Third, you should always remember to be yourself.  If you’re too shy to ask the guy yourself, you can do a few things to get his attention.  But it’s very important that you don’t try to change your personality or your likes and dislikes just for a guy.  Flirt with him when you’re around each other.  Smile when you walk past him in the hall and make an effort to talk to him when you can.  Don’t go overboard though- you don’t want to scare him off.  Establish a friendship with him and then do things together.  Then, when the time of the dance is approaching, find some time to be alone together.  He’s more likely to ask you out when you’re not surrounding by hoards of people.  Maybe even bring up the up-coming dance and see if he says anything.  If he still doesn’t take the hint (and you know that he likes you) you might need to be the one to ask him to go.

Once you’ve got your date arranged for the dance, all you have to do is prepare yourself to have a good time.  Remember to be yourself- no one likes a poser- and have a good time!

When are too many accessories too many?

Accessorizing is a fun part of fashion, and there are a lot of options out there for how you can accessorize. This makes accessorizing a great way to give yourself a style, and put a trademark on your sense of fashion. However, in some cases, because of the endless amount of options, it can be difficult to determine when you have enough, too many, or not enough accessories. The following is a look at when are too many accessories too many:

First, you have to consider your accessory options:

Watches

Bracelets

Hats

Sunglasses

Earrings

Rings

Headbands

Hair clips

Belts

Hand bags

Necklace

Scarf

Bandana

Some good rules of thumb:

Choose to enhance your outfit. When it comes to accessories, you want to add to an outfit, not steal the spotlight, or detract from the outfit. So choose your accessories wisely, and pick items that will go with multiple things so you can get plenty of use out of them. Accessories become too much when they are so bold, bright, or large that they take all of the focus. Your outfit is still the thing that matters, accessories just make them better, or make them fit the occasion. For example, a strappy sun dress is perfect for the pool if you wear it with flip flops and sunglasses, and great for a night out if you pair it with a long necklace and some strappy sandals.

Follow current trends with your accessories more than with your clothing. Accessories are a great way to stay hip. Throw out the small sunglasses and bring in the over-sized shades. Get rid of your jellies, and get some gladiator sandals. The idea is to stay current with accessories, and not to overdo it. Just because chunky bracelets, big shades, large hoops, cute hats, and large belt buckles are all in style, does not mean you should wear them all together. You have to realize that an accessory can really enhance  your look and fashion, but if you combine too many elements you take away from it. So, choose less than 3 items to wear. It is a good rule of thumb. If you have a hat, wear earrings and sunglasses, but not a necklace, belt, and bracelet too. If you want to wear a watch, add a few bracelets around it, and a cute pair of earrings, and forego the necklace.

Go for a signature look. When you accessorize, you want to use one piece that you can be known for. Whether you are known for your cute earrings, your scarves, or your hats, it is good to choose one thing you like, and wear it regularly. Then change up how you use the look. For example, if your signature is a scarf, sometimes wear it as a head wrap, other times as a neck scarf, other times as a belt, or maybe just tie it on your handbag to add some flair.

Wear what works for you

While it would be great to wear high fashion all of the time, is that really a good idea when you are babysitting for the neighbor, or cleaning the garage with your dad? If your lifestyle does not call for ball gowns, then don’t buy them, instead buy and wear what works for you. Designer labels, and high end clothing is appealing, but not practical for the average teen who spends their day on a school bus, in a classroom, and hanging out with friends. Prada next to Jansport is a bit of a fashion faux paus, so instead of always trying to be in the newest, best, top designer world, wear what works for you, your body type, and your lifestyle.

Here’s how to assess what works for you:

First, make a list of all the places you have been in the last week of your life, and take note of the places you typically spend your time, such as at school, and in your friend’s basement playing video games. Once your list is complete, think about the type of clothing that is most appropriate for a lifestyle of this kind. What would you be most comfortable wearing, and what would be out of the norm?

Second, determine what your basics should consist of. If you spend a lot of time in active sports, etc. then your basics will include some workout clothes, sports bra for girls, etc. If your activities are more along the lines of tinkering on cars, your basics should include a pair of coveralls. So, as you determine your basics, consider personal activities and interests . What do you need for them?

Third, do not give up style for comfort, or comfort for style. It is possible to both look and feel great in your clothes. Choosing itchy fabrics, or jeans with no stretch is going to be uncomfortable. So, determine what comfort level you need, and only wear clothes that fit that assessment.

Fourth, consider your body. Even if skinny jeans look amazing on some girls, if you do not have the body for them, DO NOT WEAR THEM. Trends are trendy, but no matter how with the times you are, if the clothes do nothing for your figure, you won’t feel good in them. So, figure out what cuts and styles work well for your body type and figure. If you just do not know, take a friend along, and ask them to be honest.

Fifth, have an idea or a model you want to follow. Once you figure out what styles work for your life, and what you like, and how comfortable you have to be, as well as what cuts and colors work for your body, it is time to get a “look”. The most famous fashion icons all were known for their looks. You are not fashionable just by wearing designer clothes. You have to look very put together. So, find a look you want to emulate, and refer to it when putting together outfits. You can use a celebrity, a magazine spread, or whatever works for you.

The role fashion plays in the life of a teen

Fashion is not just for models, or those with large incomes. Fashion is a part of everyone’s lives, some more so than others. For a teen, fashion often plays a big part of their life, socially, personally, and even emotionally. The following is a look at the way fashion plays a role in the life of a teen.

Expression of their identity: Clothing is an integral part of a teen’s identity. Would the popular cute girl be as cute if she wore clothes from salvation army? Would the nerd be as nerdy if he dressed like an Abercrombie model? Your identity is often wrapped in your clothing. It is like your clothes define you as a teen. In many instances this is the case, or at least in part. While it is possible to have an identity completely separate from your fashion choices, the teenage years are often extremely superficial in nature. This means that first impressions are often the impressions that last. Because your first impressions are usually based on, or made by the way someone looks, fashion is a critical element of identity.

An outlet for their feelings: Clothing is a way that you have an outward expression of how you feel on the inside. You can often tell a story through your fashion choices. For example, the free spirited girl can wear flowing skirts, peasant tops, and gladiator sandals. The boy with a traditional and conservative outlook on life may wear slacks, oxford shirts, and sweater vests. The girl who is not sure who she is may have an eclectic style of hippie one day, preppy the next, grunge the next. Your clothes not only help you express who you are and how you feel, but they often form your identity in the eyes of others. The person who always wears name brand is the “rich kid”. The person who always is found in work out attire is “the athlete”. Clothes are more than a way to cover nakedness, and as a teen, they often become the outlet of self-expression.

A social circle qualifier: One of the most difficult realities for some teens is that fashion often acts as a social circle qualifier. Without the right look, you won’t fit in to certain groups, especially the popular crowd. In the teen years, fitting in is usually really important, and while it can be overrated, it still acts as a catalyst for many choices. The girl who wants to get noticed by the guy may wear a revealing top, or a short skirt. The guy who wants to show off his muscles may wear a tight tee, or a wife-beater. Many of the friends a teen makes, and the circle within which they associate is made up of people who dress the same, or have similar fashion choices. It is not often you see the designer label girl hanging around with the girl who bought her clothes from the local thrift shop. This is not because one is necessarily better than the other, but simply because in the world of teens, fashion matters socially.

The basics of teen fashion, what you need to know

As a teenager, staying hip and in the fashion trends is likely important to you. However, it can also be very expensive, especially if you are having to replace your whole wardrobe. In order to stay in style, and have flexibility in your wardrobe, without the high cost, consider having the basics or essentials that you need, and then adding accessories, and a few trendier pieces. This means that your core pieces will not change with the trends, but instead you will supplement with some of the fun items like novelty tees, or the ultra-trendy clothing that by next year will be long gone in the fashion world.

The following are some tips for what basics you need to have a wardrobe with a backbone that can be supplemented with trendier items. Of course, depending on where you live, your core basics may vary, as different climates call for different articles of clothing. However, in general, here are some items every teen girl should have in her closet:

Jeans:

You want to have at least two pairs that fit you perfectly, and that are a classic cut, not a huge flare, or a tight bottom, but consider a boot cut or straight leg. You also want to ensure that they are a medium wash, as dark and light tend to change with the trends. These are to be your basic pairs, so you want to keep things basic with them, do not have bedazzled pockets, or funky stitching, just go with the basics.

Trousers:

There are occasions when you will need something other than jeans, so have a pair of trousers that are going to fit you nicely and that are in a neutral shade.

Shorts:

It is smart to have a pair of khaki shorts. Not too short or long, and not with embellishments. A pair of basic denim shorts, again not too short or long, will serve you well as well.

T-Shirts:

When it comes to t-shirts you can have a closet full, and only wear a few. For your core wardrobe you need Three solid-color –shirts, choose your 3 favorite colors to wear, or, to stay safe, choose white, black, and gray. In addition, do not choose any funky necklines or cuts, just a basic short sleeved tee.

Jackets:

No matter where you live there is likely a time when you need a jacket, consider having a neutral shade button-down oxford, a well-fitted denim jacket, and a neutral colored zip front sweatshirt. Blacks, brown, whites, and grays are always good color options.

Shoes:

Shoes really add to outfits, and are a fun place to find diversity and mix things up, however, there are some basics that everyone needs in their wardrobe. The shoes you should have include boots, sandals, flats, and a pair of workout type shoes.

Summer fashion trends for teens

During the school year fashion is a very important part of who you are, what crowd you hang out in, and whether or not you are accepted in social circles. Summer is no different, it just happens to be more laid back. The following is a look at some of the summer fashion trends for teens:

Apparel that can be worn at formal and informal settings. As a teen you do not want to have to worry about changing when you go from a day out with friends to a night in with your parents and their dinner guests. So, part of the fashion trend is wearing clothes that work both casually and formally. This means for girls summer dresses that can be worn with flip flops while out with friends, and can be dressed up with a necklace, earrings, and a pair of heels, when at a more formal affair. Multi-functional pieces are really in, they not only save you money on your wardrobe, but they make life easier, freeing up your time to enjoy the sun.

Fabrics that don’t need ironing, special care, and do not require following special washing instructions. Let’s face it, as a teen you have better things to worry about than how to wash their favorite sweater so it does not shrink. Clothes that can be tossed in the wash with your socks and underwear are a plus, and a trend. While the look of more delicate or fussy fabrics is still often desired, it can usually be achieved with cottons.

Designs that reflect your personality, the bold and even sometimes rebellious side of being a teen. Out are the days of stuffy, uniform like outfits, and in are the days of bold graphic tees, bright colored leggings, scarves with bold patterns, big earrings, big handbags, and grunge jeans. One of the biggest fashion trends for teens this summer is simply that they are their own person, not a miniature version of their father or mother. Thus, clothes are very “teen”, not something you would see a parent, or even college aged kid wearing.

Patterns that enable you to flaunt your great teen body. For boys, v-neck shirts that show a little bit of the chest, jeans cut snug at the waist to show the narrow hips, and well balanced upper body. For girls, anything that shows their well-toned bodies. This means shorts, tight fitting shirts, tanks, etc. The idea is to flaunt it if you’ve got it, but not in a way that says you are easy, slutty, etc.

When it comes to summer clothing, simple is often best. The accessories you see the most are sunglasses and shoes. It is hot, and you are often out at the beach, the pool, or being active in some other way, so lots of accessories get in the way. So, a simple sun dress, a great fitting t-shirt, and some denim shorts, etc. can go a long way.

Revamp your style with a quick fix

As a teenager, fashion is an important part of your life. Your personal style will influence who your friends are, how you feel about yourself, and often how others feel about you. There is a lot of pressure to look your best, and have a style of your own. The problem is that as a teenager, chances are you do not have an endless budget for clothing and accessories. So, the following is a look at how you can use what you have and add in a few extras to revamp your style quickly and easily.

Tip one: When you buy clothes, buy things that are not going to go out of style quickly. The basics you have become the foundation and bones of your wardrobe, and you stay up with the style by adding a few key pieces, accessories, etc. So, your first tip is to go through your wardrobe and pull out anything that is specific to a trend, past or present. Leave only the things that have worked and will work for a long time. These are things like white shirts, a great pair of jeans, a summer sweater, a black dress, etc.

Tip two: Remake when you can. Trends come and go, and in some cases, a few slight changes to things you already own will update them, and give you a lot more room in your fashion budget. For example, designer pockets on jeans have become very popular. Gone are the days of having a basic pair of jeans with basic stitching on the pockets. Now you have to have a design. Well, you can create designs on the pockets of jeans you already have. Take some sequins, patches, buttons, or even tear, file, or age the pocket to give jeans a whole new look. Grunge is a popular look, so age some of your jeans by fraying the bottom, use some sandpaper or a file to give areas a more worn look, or add a few well placed holes.

Tip three: Accessorize. One of the fastest ways to revamp your style, without spending a lot is with a few key accessories. For example, a white t-shirt and jeans is a classic look, bring it up to date for a shopping trip to the mall with a long beaded necklace, a headband, and an oversized handbag. Change that look for a night out at a concert by wearing some brightly colored flats, hang a pair of colored shades on your neckline, and pull your hair up and accessorize with a bandana. Dress the same look up with a pair of heels, a more delicate necklace of silver or gold, a flower clasp in your hair, and a lightweight sweater. Change your accessories, not your clothes.

As you can see, you probably have most of what you need or want, and you can get the look that is popular in the moment with a few simple steps.