How to stop his wandering eye

If you are in a relationship, and his eye is wandering, you catch him checking out other girls when the two of you are out, there is only so much you can do. Even in a marriage you can’t stop someone from looking, so how can you expect it in a younger relationship? You are still a teen, and so you should not be getting too serious yet, but that does not mean you want his eye wandering. So, what can you do to stop his wandering eye?

•    You can ask him about it. Sometimes guys look because that is what they do. You look too, you are just better at it than he is because you know how to be discreet. He may not be looking because he is dissatisfied with you, but because he is a young guy. You have to realize you are still young, and so is he. You are around hundreds of people of the opposite gender each day. So, how can you really expect him not to look some? He is looking to figure what it is that he wants, not because he is looking for someone better or new. However, simply mentioning his wandering eye and the fact that you notice it will help him to control it more.
•    You can change something about yourself to try and grab his attention again. Sometimes things get a little stale. You are young, there are tons of new girls to look at each day, and if you have been dating a while, he may just want to look at his options a little. You probably do it too! So, change your hair cut, color, or style. Buy some new clothes, and get ready every day so that he never has a reason to look somewhere else. If you do not want his eye to wander, you better ensure he has a pleasing sight to look at in you.

These are really your only two options. The truth is, as mentioned above, stopping it is really not entirely possible, but limiting it is. You want to be the center of his life, but chances are he is not in a place in his life yet where he is ready to make that HUGE of a commitment, and you shouldn’t be either. You are young. He is surrounded by females, and expecting him not to look at them is silly. If more than his eyes wander, then it is time to really put on the stops. If his hands wander, or his lips wander, then you need to break up with him. However, if it is just his eyes, you should be grateful he is normal, has hormones, and is attracted to girls.

So, do not try to stop him from looking. Be glad that he is looking, and be glad that even when he is looking at other girls, he is coming back to you. What should that tell you? That means that he wants you. He knows his options, and he is choosing you still. So, instead of being less secure because he is looking around, you should be more secure.

Now, if he is checking out other girls when you are out on a date, or when he should be paying attention to you, then it is a problem. Then, you need to put your foot down. Then you need to call him out, ask for a change, or break it off.

How to stop his wandering eye

If you are in a relationship, and his eye is wandering, you catch him checking out other girls when the two of you are out, there is only so much you can do. Even in a marriage you can’t stop someone from looking, so how can you expect it in a younger relationship? You are still a teen, and so you should not be getting too serious yet, but that does not mean you want his eye wandering. So, what can you do to stop his wandering eye?

  • You can ask him about it. Sometimes guys look because that is what they do. You look too, you are just better at it than he is because you know how to be discreet. He may not be looking because he is dissatisfied with you, but because he is a young guy. You have to realize you are still young, and so is he. You are around hundreds of people of the opposite gender each day. So, how can you really expect him not to look some? He is looking to figure what it is that he wants, not because he is looking for someone better or new. However, simply mentioning his wandering eye and the fact that you notice it will help him to control it more.
  • You can change something about yourself to try and grab his attention again. Sometimes things get a little stale. You are young, there are tons of new girls to look at each day, and if you have been dating a while, he may just want to look at his options a little. You probably do it too! So, change your hair cut, color, or style. Buy some new clothes, and get ready every day so that he never has a reason to look somewhere else. If you do not want his eye to wander, you better ensure he has a pleasing sight to look at in you.

These are really your only two options. The truth is, as mentioned above, stopping it is really not entirely possible, but limiting it is. You want to be the center of his life, but chances are he is not in a place in his life yet where he is ready to make that HUGE of a commitment, and you shouldn’t be either. You are young. He is surrounded by females, and expecting him not to look at them is silly. If more than his eyes wander, then it is time to really put on the stops. If his hands wander, or his lips wander, then you need to break up with him. However, if it is just his eyes, you should be grateful he is normal, has hormones, and is attracted to girls.

So, do not try to stop him from looking. Be glad that he is looking, and be glad that even when he is looking at other girls, he is coming back to you. What should that tell you? That means that he wants you. He knows his options, and he is choosing you still. So, instead of being less secure because he is looking around, you should be more secure.

Now, if he is checking out other girls when you are out on a date, or when he should be paying attention to you, then it is a problem. Then, you need to put your foot down. Then you need to call him out, ask for a change, or break it off.

How to get someone “out of your league”

Every girl has a crush on someone that they think is out of their league, and most and most girls do not think they can ever get this guy. However, this is strictly untrue. The following are the ways to get someone who is “out of your league”:

  • Have confidence. You can’t let them know you think they are out of your league, or they will think that to and not give you the time of day. So, have some confidence in your ability to attract them. You have good qualities, and you have something to offer that no other girl has, you just have to make sure you know it so he can see it, and find it out for himself. Even if you aren’t confident, start acting like you are, fake it until it is true.
  • Look good. You aren’t going to get someone who is out of your league by wearing sweat pants to school, and having a greasy head. You will need to look good. It does not matter if your natural beauty is not as much as some other girl, you can show off your good taste by dressing well; you can show that you can be just as cute by doing your hair every day, and wearing your make-up tastefully. So, spend some time trying to look great, and you will get his attention, and do it consistently, not just occasionally.
  • Impress him with a common interest. If he really is out of your league, and he knows it, you are going to have a harder time getting him to want to date you, but it is still possible. You just have to impress him. A lot of the time people think that they are out of your league because they do not know you. So, show off some of what you have to offer. If you are a great athlete, make sure they know you are. If you are excellent at Mario Kart Double Dash, then he needs to know. So, if possible, find out his interests, then let him know you share interests and that you are skilled. The best way to get a guy out of your league is to show them how great you are at something. It is even better if you are better at it than he is.
  • Act like you are out of his league. He is lucky to date you, not the other way around. Honestly, look at the popular girls, look at the girls who are “in his league” what makes them so special? They walk the walk and talk the talk. It is not necessarily that they are more beautiful, talented, or smart. It is that they think they are. So, time for you to change your thinking. You are the best thing that could happen to a guy. You are not shallow. You are smart. You are funny. You are insightful. You are a good listener. You are whatever you are, so figure that out, and be proud of it. You have to think you are all that to be all that.

If you can do the above things, you will be able to get any guy you want, even those who you once thought were out of your league. So, become the one who is out of someone’s league instead of thinking someone is out of yours.

Tips for finding a great stylist

Trying to find a good hair stylist is no simple task.  It is a wonderful thing when you can find a stylist who you’re comfortable with and who is able to give you the perfect look.  The best stylist will be aware of your tastes, and perhaps be able to give you some new ideas that would work for your face shape that you hadn’t even thought of.  It is always good to find a professional to cut your hair; someone who has many clients and stays current with the cuts that are in style.  If you can find this perfect stylist, than you won’t have to be worried every time you go to get your hair cut that it will turn out horribly.  Having this peace of mind when handing yourself over to someone who will greatly affect your appearance is priceless.  How then do you find this dream stylist?  Here are a few ideas:

1. The absolute best way to be confident in your stylist’s work, is to see examples.  Many stylists will keep albums of the work they’ve done.  Before you have your hair cut, ask if you can see some of their work.  This will give you extra confidence in the choice you’ve made.  The easiest way to find a stylist you like is to look for examples of their work in real life.  If you see someone with a fabulous haircut, don’t be afraid to ask them who did the cut.  They will be flattered that you noticed their style, and you might just end up with the perfect

stylist.  One thing to remember when doing this is to try and find someone who has a similar hair texture as yours.  Certain stylists may specialize in a specific texture of hair, and different textures are very different to cut.  The color and length aren’t necessarily important, but you should make sure that the stylist you are visiting has experience styling hair of your texture.

2. Another tip for finding a good stylist is to pay attention to their clientele.  We already discussed making sure that they have plenty of experience with your hair texture, but there’s more to it than that.  Is your stylist always available?  You want to have someone who is in demand working with your hair.  This doesn’t mean that they need to be overpriced and located in an expensive part of town, it only means that they should have extremely loyal clients and plenty of them.  Pay attention when you go to visit your stylist for the first time of who else is calling them, or attending their salon.  Are they familiar with their clients?  If you see that your stylist has repeat business than that means they satisfy their customers.  When people want to come back to their salon, it tells you that they do a good job, and that you will

probably want to come back time and time again as well.

3. A final tip is to always remember that flash is not nearly as important as experience.  Pay more attention to the stylists clientele and ability than to how youthful and expensive their salon is.  Don’t be shy to ask your stylist how long they have been working.  Although some new stylists do wonderful work, the more experience one has, the better.

Finding a great stylist can be a difficult task sometimes, but once you do you can be comfortable knowing that you’ll look great every time you leave from a new cut.  Remember to pay attention to their client’s looks and also to the stylist’s haircut.  If you like their haircut, than you most likely have similar tastes to what you think looks good.  Good luck out there!

How can I slow things down without ruining the relationship?

boyfriend and girlfriend relationshipWhen you are in a relationship that is moving too fast, you may be wondering what you can do about it and still preserve the relationship. Now you can get the view from the guy’s perspective.

Question: How can I slow things down without ruining the relationship?

Answer:  Umm, as bad as it sounds, you pretty much can’t. Most guys that are teens want some. That is the main driving purpose behind any relationship, and one of the only reasons they would tie themselves down to one girl. So, chances are, if you are uncomfortable and try to slow things down, he will dump you and find someone that isn’t. But that is not a bad thing. In fact, it is really good for you.

However, this is not true for all relationships. So, if he really likes you, and is not just in it because he likes you and wants to get some, then the only thing you really can do is talk to him about things.

Tell him you like him, like the relationship, and do not want to ruin things, but that you are moving too fast physically and you need to slow things down. Then just judge his reaction. If he is cool with it, he will say so, and you will see him make efforts, like not watching movies together because that is when he wants to do more. He will plan things that are easier for him to resist temptation while doing. Not ruining the relationship is up to him, not you. The truth is, it really depends on his intentions and true motivations. It will be easy to slow things down without ruining the relationship if he really likes you for you, and his motivation for the relationship is not the physical side of things.

But, if he acts irritated, or gets ornery, or keeps trying, then even though he likes you, you need to realize that the foundation for your relationship is weak, and it won’t likely go anywhere because he is mad about not getting some. So, that is when you need to stop caring about ruining the relationship and dump the guy. He can like you for you, and still be dating you to get some. So, do not look at it as an insult, realize that you are attractive and cool enough that he would single you out, but that you do not want to move that fast, and if he is unwilling to stop, he is the one with the problem, not you.

If you don’t dump the guy, he will keep trying things, and you will be uncomfortable and do things you regret, and he will break up with you after he gets what he wants anyway. So, while it sucks, it is true. Most teenage guys do not have long term thoughts when it comes to girls. They may really enjoy your friendship, and like spending time with you, but when they commit to an exclusive relationship it is because they want some and don’t want other guys to have what they are getting.

Quit thinking you are the exception.
The most truthful answer to the question of how to slow things down without the relationship being ruined is simply you can’t. This is not just because of the guy though. If you want to regress, it is going to be hard on both of you to go from doing something to not doing it, it is easy to slip back into old habits, and this is trouble. So, break up. Do not try to salvage things. If it is meant to happen you will get back together and can start over physically.

Thin is in, how to help your friend with an eating disorder

When you have a friend with an eating disorder, there are some things that you can do to help:

  • Learn as much as you can about eating disorders. Read books, articles, and brochures. If you have knowledge and understanding about their situation you will be a much bigger asset and much more helpful than someone who knows little. Instead of looking like someone trying to stick their nose in someone else’s business you look like a knowledgeable, caring, friend.
  • Know the differences between facts and myths about weight, nutrition, and exercise. This is so very important because knowing the facts will help you reason against any inaccurate ideas that your friend may be using as excuses to maintain their disordered eating patterns. You should compile information and have sources on hand to show healthy eating patterns, and information about weight, nutrition and exercise.
  • Be honest with your friend. In order to help your friend you need to be able to talk openly and honestly about your concerns with the person who is struggling with eating or body image problems. Avoiding it or ignoring it won’t help, so talk about it! Sometimes just seeing how much someone else cares and worries about them can help them take the steps to overcoming the disorder.
  • Be caring, but be firm. Caring about your friend does not mean being manipulated by them, or letting them do things because they want to. Your friend must be responsible for their actions and the consequences of those actions, so you need to be sure to avoid making rules, promises, or expectations that you cannot or will not uphold. What does this mean exactly? It means do not do things like promise not to tell anyone, or tell them that you will never talk to them again if they don’t stop. Truth is important, so only say and do things you really mean.
  • Compliment your friend’s wonderful personality, successes, or accomplishments. Most eating disorders start with an insecurity about worth and value, and become more as their self image, and therefore image image starts to come into question. So, be sure to remind your friend how great they are.
  • Be a good role model in regard to sensible eating, exercise, and self-acceptance. Do not talk bad about yourself or your body in front of them as it gives them an excuse to think poorly about their own. Do not binge or eat poorly when they are around. Example is key!
  • Tell someone. It may seem difficult to know when, if at all, to tell someone else about your concerns. However, eating disorders are serious problems and you can’t help your friend if you do not address their body image or eating problems in the beginning stages. If you can get them help early, this gives your friend the best chance for working through these issues and becoming healthy again. Don’t wait until the situation is so severe that your friend’s life is in danger.
  • Be supportive and understanding, but not accepting of the disorder. As soon as you begin to rationalize or allow them to have the disorder, your value for helping them diminishes. Your friend needs as much support and understanding as possible, but they also need to know how much you hate that they suffer with the problem.

Sexy versus slutty, where to draw the line

We all want guys and girls to notice us, and most of the time we get that attention through our choice of clothes. Obviously we a want positive attention, but sometimes in our quest for attention, we go over the line. So, how can you know when you look sexy or slutty? Where do you draw the line? If you have ever wondered about this, read on.

The golden rule of looking sexy not slutty-Only show one body part with any outfit.

What do we mean body parts? Well, think of it this way: thighs are shown by wearing a mini skirt or short shorts, cleavage is shown by wearing a low-necked top and the midriff is shown by wearing a short shirt, etc. So, only show one and you are on the way to looking sexy not slutty.

Once you get dressed, look in the mirror and ask yourself: Do I look beautiful or hot? If you lean toward “hot” over beautiful, then you need to change your outfit. There is a subtle difference between beautiful and hot and you need to figure out which one you are. Why? Well, many people can detect that difference, and it is that difference that influences the perception of “Slutty” and “Sexy”.

Another thing to consider is your attitude. Part of being labeled/called a slut versus someone who is sexy, is in the attitude and the actions you take. So if you skip the drama and don’t act spoiled or bitchy you shouldn’t have problems with being called a slut when you occasionally wear cute booty jeans and a cute little top.

Another thing to consider is why you are dressing the way you are. Most of the time girls who dress skimpy do it to get attention because they can’t get it any other way. Dressing like a slut sends messages of insecurity and displays a lack of self confidence. So, when you go to get dressed next time you are going out, ask yourself what message you want to portray.

So, how can you take an outfit from slutty to sexy? Well, for example, if you love to have a little midriff showing or you like skimpy tops, wear a cute blazer, or a cardigan of any sort over the top. This will make your outfit subtle, yet still sexy, and will rid you of the sluttly look you get with those skimpy tops.

Keep it classy. The difference between sluttiness and beauty is just pure class. So, if you want people to think you are sexy and good looking, not slutty, wear classy clothing. Do not wear that three dollar cami with a pair of tight tight jeans.

You can look really great by wearing something that shows off your figure, but not a ton of skin. This does not mean butt tight jeans. It means wear a silk dress that clings in just the right places but still leaves something to the imagination. Give the shadow of what is underneath, don’t just bare it all. If you leave some mystery and excitement, guys will find you more attractive, they will like you for you, and you won’t be an object to have, but a person to get to know.

So, next time you get dressed remember, only one part shows, not too tight, it is all in the attitude, and it is okay to wear something a little revealing, but class it up with a nice cashmere sweater, or a light weight blazer.