Sexy versus slutty, where to draw the line

We all want guys and girls to notice us, and most of the time we get that attention through our choice of clothes. Obviously we a want positive attention, but sometimes in our quest for attention, we go over the line. So, how can you know when you look sexy or slutty? Where do you draw the line? If you have ever wondered about this, read on.

The golden rule of looking sexy not slutty-Only show one body part with any outfit.

What do we mean body parts? Well, think of it this way: thighs are shown by wearing a mini skirt or short shorts, cleavage is shown by wearing a low-necked top and the midriff is shown by wearing a short shirt, etc. So, only show one and you are on the way to looking sexy not slutty.

Once you get dressed, look in the mirror and ask yourself: Do I look beautiful or hot? If you lean toward “hot” over beautiful, then you need to change your outfit. There is a subtle difference between beautiful and hot and you need to figure out which one you are. Why? Well, many people can detect that difference, and it is that difference that influences the perception of “Slutty” and “Sexy”.

Another thing to consider is your attitude. Part of being labeled/called a slut versus someone who is sexy, is in the attitude and the actions you take. So if you skip the drama and don’t act spoiled or bitchy you shouldn’t have problems with being called a slut when you occasionally wear cute booty jeans and a cute little top.

Another thing to consider is why you are dressing the way you are. Most of the time girls who dress skimpy do it to get attention because they can’t get it any other way. Dressing like a slut sends messages of insecurity and displays a lack of self confidence. So, when you go to get dressed next time you are going out, ask yourself what message you want to portray.

So, how can you take an outfit from slutty to sexy? Well, for example, if you love to have a little midriff showing or you like skimpy tops, wear a cute blazer, or a cardigan of any sort over the top. This will make your outfit subtle, yet still sexy, and will rid you of the sluttly look you get with those skimpy tops.

Keep it classy. The difference between sluttiness and beauty is just pure class. So, if you want people to think you are sexy and good looking, not slutty, wear classy clothing. Do not wear that three dollar cami with a pair of tight tight jeans.

You can look really great by wearing something that shows off your figure, but not a ton of skin. This does not mean butt tight jeans. It means wear a silk dress that clings in just the right places but still leaves something to the imagination. Give the shadow of what is underneath, don’t just bare it all. If you leave some mystery and excitement, guys will find you more attractive, they will like you for you, and you won’t be an object to have, but a person to get to know.

So, next time you get dressed remember, only one part shows, not too tight, it is all in the attitude, and it is okay to wear something a little revealing, but class it up with a nice cashmere sweater, or a light weight blazer.