Question: What can I do when he dumps me and won’t say why?
Honestly, if he is not talking to you, especially if he won’t talk to you about it, you might as well just move on and avoid future troubles. There are many guys out there that are nicer than that. But, we all know girls won’t take “nothing” for an answer.
If he won’t tell you why, it is probably because he did something wrong. He cheated, he likes someone else more, or he just does not want to be in a relationship. Most guys will tell you if it is you. They are breaking up with you, so they will tell you why if it is something in your control. So, the first thing to know is that it probably is not you, unless it is something he would be embarrassed to tell you because it makes him look shallow etc. Like your armpit hair or lip hair turned him off. Or, he may have dumped you because he was worried you were going to dump him, and wanted to do it first so he does not look stupid. So, if at all possible, just take he did something he is embarrassed about as your answer and move on.
If you can’t take that as an answer, and if he dumps you and won’t say why, do not ask, call him, email him, or make a big fuss. If he did not tell you then, he won’t tell you now, and he might even just make something stupid up to get you off his back. Asking over and over is a bad idea. It will make you look really desperate, and it will reinforce his reasoning. So, instead, just get one of your friends to talk to one of his. Or at least put your feelers out. He told someone why he dumped you. So, instead of trying to hear it from him, just listen and keep your ears open, someone will talk about it, and if you do not make a big scene about wanting to know why, someone will talk about it in front of you. You will hear third party, but at least you will know.
You can also just watch what he does. If he immediately hooks up with another girl, then that is probably why he dumped you. Or, he was insecure that you were going to dump him, he will probably try to get back together with you if you do not get with someone right away.
When he won’t tell you why he dumped you, your options are limited. However, you will feel better about yourself, and about the situation if you can rid yourself of the desire to know why. Just move on, have fun, and get in a new, better relationship in time, and you will forget all about him and his stupid lack of a reason for breaking up with you.
Some guys do not have a good reason, so they just opt not to give one. That is their prerogative, and you will have to live with it. So, if it is eating at you, discretely ask around, but if it is not bugging you too bad, just move on.