Parenting is one of the most difficult jobs in the world! Many people find that the teen years are some of the hardest ones as the kids are learning a lot and they like to challenge authority and test their boundaries. Your once adoring daughter may suddenly be going through a number of life changes and she may find your overall presence irritating and annoying. You could end up dealing with a lot of arguments and just struggling to get through the days. How can you find better ways to parent your teen daughter?
It is important to recognize that she is going to deal with a lot of hormonal changes and things and these issues will end up impacting her mood. This can be really hard for many people. You need to be understanding of this as it’s just as hard on your daughter as it is on you to deal with the mood swings. She is learning to control them and it is not always easy at times.
Watch your behavior. When your teen daughter starts flying off the handle, you need to maintain your cool! It is important that you do not become like a teen yourself and start thinking in the moment and illogically. You need to be the parent and to be in control of the situation! Focus on working hard to manage your own emotions so you don’t end up in a screaming match with your teen.
Your teen is on the hunt for a person that they feel understands them. As a parent you need to be this person! It is important that you take the step to really learn how to listen to your teen and to find out what is going on in their life. You must be able to work on effective communication with your teen and to show them that you are trying to understand them. They may appreciate the effort that you are putting forward to try and make your relationship work. Learn to listen as this is huge to a teen. They don’t always want you to give them advice as they want you to listen to them. Sometimes teens just need to vent.
Make yourself available for your daughter. You really need to work on being there for her when she needs to talk and not letting yourself get distracted by other things. As your daughter can see that you make her a big priority in your life, she will feel loved and it will be easier on her to trust you and to know that you will always be there for her.
Watch your words. Teen girls have very fragile self-esteem. You need to make sure you are watching what you say as she can be overly sensitive to it and may be offended. You need to be able to provide her with compliments each day and to let her see and know of your love for her. You have to avoid scolding her and to make sure that you are having discussions with her instead. This is a different type of relationship and it’s one that you both need to figure out together. Have a lot of love and patience with each other.
Rules are necessary for teens! Some parents try too hard to be the best friend that they forget about being the parent. You need to have set rules and she needs to understand what these rules are. If you do not have rules and you let her make her own rules, it will lead to a lot of fighting in the home as you are trying to parent too little too late.