What could be more fun than being on the ins with the guys, hanging with the whole group, and hearing their secrets? Many girls want to be one of the guys so that they get guy attention, but the question is, is being one of the guys really worth it?

You do get to spend your time with the boys, enjoying their company, and having them call you, etc. So, what is the downside? Well, you are one of the guys, so you are not dating material, and so, if you like one of the guys in your group, you are pretty much out of luck. Guys have a way of being unable to see the forest through the trees. So, if you want to be a forest, you can’t be a tress.

Whether or not being one of the guys is worth it, depends on what you want from the guys.
If you want to see them all the time, then being one of the guys is worth it.
If you want the guys to give you public attention, then being one of the guys is worth it.
If you want them to call you regularly, and invite you to hang out, then being one of the guys is worth it.
If you want to be part of the guy group, then being one of the guys is worth it.
If you want to hear their secrets, then being one of the guys is worth it.
However,
When you see them it will be for fun, not romance, and you will be looked at as one of the guys.
When they give you public attention it will not be to show they like you, or make another girl know they are off the market, it will be because you are one of their buds.
When they call you, it will not be to chat for hours on end, or even to really see how you are doing, it will be to hang out, and get together with the group.
When you are part of the group, you are not dating the people in the group, you are someone who is in the group and will date outside of it.
When you hear their secrets, they will be about other girls, they will be about someone else, not you.

So, being one of the guys is only worth it if you do not want to date, do not like, or don’t think you will ever have a crush on one of the guys. If you think you can handle seeing and hearing out the guys dating other girls, and ignoring you. If you can handle them asking everyone else to the dance, and not you. Then sure, being one of the guys is great.

There is another downside. When you are just one of the guys, many other guys, not in the group, do not recognize your affiliation. So, that means not only are you ignored as a girl by the guys in the group, but also by other guys. You are surrounded by guys all of the time, why would you be interested in them?

Being one of the guys is a lot of fun, and it is nice to be part of a group, no matter what group it is. However, you will want to really weigh the options. If you are the girl friend of someone in the group, do not fool yourself into thinking you are one of the guys. You aren’t. And, if you ever break up with your boyfriend, chances are you won’t stay one of the guys, or possibly even be friends with “the guys” any more. So, don’t set yourself up for disappointment. If you don’t want to date, and you just want friendships with guys, then being one of the guys is worth it. But, if you want more, then it is not going to be worth it to you.