Talking to girls can be one of the most stressful parts of being a teenage guy. The thought of being rejected can cause so much fear it paralyzes a guy. Talking to girls doesn’t have to be as scary as it seems. And believe it or not, being rejected really isn’t as bad as it may seem. To all the guys out there unsure about the best way to talk to girls, here are a few tips.
Everyone has hear the cliché phrases like “are you tired? Cause you’ve been running through my dreams all night long.” Girls may think these phrases are funny, but if this is the first thing said to a girl ever, it probably won’t work. Girls do not want to be picked up with a cheap phrase. Instead, girls want to know a guy is interested in them as a person. Don’t use them!
Be a Gentleman
While all the other guys are passing out cliché phrases to all the girls, try being a gentleman. This is a win, win strategy. If the girl is interested, being a gentleman will show her you’re a man. If the girl is not interested, then she should have the respect let you down easy. Compliment her hair, open the door for her, or, if you are good enough friends with her, help her with something. Even though it seems like girls just want the bad guy, they really want the guy that will treat them right.
Find the Right Girl
Just because a girl is hot, doesn’t mean she is the girl a guy should go after. If the guy and girl have nothing in common, then even if she is into the guy, it likely won’t work out. The guy needs to look for the girl that seems to share his interests. Likely the girls he should be talking to are at all of the events and parties he is at. Not only will it be easier to talk to someone who shares the same interests, but it is more likely the girl will be interested.
What to Say
What to say will vary depending on the situation. If a guy is talking to a girl for the first time, maybe a simple “what’s up” is the best way to go. If a guy tells a girl he is in love with her the first time he meets her, she will likely be freaked out. Be natural and patient. Getting a girl to fall for you may take time. Say hi for a while, then compliment her on something. Then strike up a conversation about something. If the goal is just friendship, being natural is definitely the best way to go. No one wants a fake friend. That initial “what’s up” may take guts, but it is the best way to find out right away if a girl is interested. If she says hi back awesome. If she give the guy a scuzz, then no need to stress about talking to her again.
Don’t Take it Personal
Sometimes a guy will think getting a certain girl to like them is the only thing in the world that is important. Really, the guy needs to remember that if a girl isn’t into them, there are others that will be. Getting in the dating game takes guts and confidence. Guys shouldn’t let a rejection get to them. They should just move on and have fun!