As a teenage girl you experience hormones, and there are going to be times when the best way to characterize you is “boy crazy.” So, when you are crazy about a boy, you want to let them know so that you can determine if he likes you too, and if you should take it up a notch, meaning start dating, hanging out more, etc. However, sometimes as a girl, it can be scary to let a guy know you like him. The possibility of rejection can be scary. Thus, many girls struggle with how to let someone know you are interested, without looking like a fool if you get turned down. Finding this balance is difficult, and the reason so many “games” are played in dating, especially dating amongst teens. Boys are no different in this, and so the following are some great tips for how to let someone know you like them, without putting yourself in too much risk:
1. Some casual flirting. One of the best ways to clue a guy in to your interest in him is to flirt with him. Casual flirting goes a long way. So, engage him in some witty banter. Touch his arm when you talk to him. Laugh, share little secrets to create some intimacy. Be a little more physical with him, such as give him hugs, etc. However, one word of caution. A girl labeled as a “flirt” will have little success with this tactic when she actually likes a guy because she won’t be treating him any differently than she treats other guys. So, flirt with just him.
2. Initiate contact with him. When you seek someone out, make a point of talking to them, sitting by them, and spending time with them, it becomes rather evident that at the very least you enjoy their company. In most cases if you seek them out often enough they will figure out that you like them. So, when you are school, make a point of talking to them each time you pass them in the halls. If you are hanging out in a group setting, be sure to initiate conversation with him. You approach him, don’t always wait for him to approach you.
3. Be direct, but not too blunt. If you like a guy, subtlety does not usually work. So, instead of waiting for him to get the hint, put yourself out there, but not too much. Don’t say; “I like you, do you like me?” Do say, “You are fun, I like you, we should hang out.” That puts it out there that you want to spend time with them and gives them the opportunity to meet you half way by asking you for your number, or asking you to hang out at a specific place and time. If he responds, “Sure,we should sometime.” you may want to put a lid on your feelings and see if he ever follows through. He may want to sometime, but he may also be too polite to tell you he would rather not. So, at this point, the ball is in his court, keep your interest level in other regards the same, but do not extend an invitation again. If he responds, “Sure, what are you doing this weekend?” then you have a go ahead!
One thing you have to remember when you are letting a guy know that you like him is that guys do not do as well with hints, suggestions, or subtleties. They communicate in a more direct way, so to help them understand your feelings, mixed signals is a poor idea. So, you have to take a little risk, and let them know you are receptive.